A lot of men think that a jealous woman is pretty cute. These men clearly do not have jealous girlfriends. Jealous girlfriends make for miserable boyfriends, which makes for a miserable relationship. A certain touch of jealousy can keep things hot in a relationship, but it’s easy to cross that line into the jealousy getting creepy. Don’t let it get creepy. Don’t let it ruin your relationship. Follow these steps and make sure the jealousy stays cute.
How Much is Too Much?
Obviously, it’s too much when she’s outside your window with binoculars, but come on. That’s just unreasonable, right? Wrong. Some women have even gone so far as to stalk their boyfriends if they get too jealous, so watch out. It’s too much when she starts wanting to look through your phone. It’s probably also too much when she has to know the specific details of every time you go out. Odds are you don’t ask her about every time she goes out with her friends, so there’s no need for her to demand the details from you. When she starts butting into things that are personal or private without your knowledge or without you wanting it, then things have gone too far. This can happen when you start out a relationship thinking the jealousy thing is cute. When a woman is jealous at the start of a relationship, then that only means it’s going to get worse. If you let her act like that, she’ll think it’s okay and won’t ever stop. Have fun looking over your shoulder and walking on eggshells.
A woman who’s jealous of everything you do and has to know every detail clearly has trust issues. You can see why this would ruin a relationship. When she’s rifling through your phone and email history to see who you’re talking to and why, it sends a horrible message. It tells you that she doesn’t trust you at all, and thinks you’re going to cheat on her. This may be a remnant of a bad relationship, but it’s wrong of her to take that out on you. Let her know that she shouldn’t assume that all men are the same, and tell her that you’re sorry she doesn’t have enough faith in you. It’s important to never act like this is okay behavior. Having a girlfriend who acts like this will put so much stress on the relationship that it’s bound to end eventually.
On top of making you feel like crap about yourself because she doesn’t trust you, her jealousy will also ruin your friendships. If she doesn’t think she can trust you to text people, she definitely won’t trust you to hang out with them. Especially if you have friends who are girls, she’ll go nuts. You can kiss those friends goodbye. In a world where more and more men and women are becoming just friends, this is insane. Any girlfriend who forces her boyfriend to get rid of his close friends just because she’s jealous is not anyone worth staying with. Instead, invite her to hang out with your friends. Seeing that they’re harmless and allowing her to be part of the group will help. When you don’t, she feels excluded and like you’re leaving her out for a reason. Whether or not this is true, it’s still pretty annoying.